i have took it upon myself to change my starter. I've bought the repair manual and thorougly followed directions for removal. removed the necessary, but the book does not tell how to disconnect the gray wire connecter. i 've squeezed the side,looked for tabs, pulled on it, there is a thick wire wrapped in black electrical tape right over it, which makes it hard to get to, but i can see part of it and feel it. any solutions? thanx 4 your time!